What Would You Do If You Felt Better?
You know how “they,” Oprah, inspirational speakers, Pinterest pinners ask the question “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” It’s a great question.
But it’s not my question….
My question is: “What would you do if you felt better?”
- What would you do if you weren’t so tired, stressed, over committed?
- What would you do if you weren’t hiding your weight (either because you actually could lose a few pounds or you just think you could lose a few pounds?)
- What would you do if you weren’t hung over every Friday, Saturday, Sunday AM (for my college students?)
- What would you do if you weren’t so depressed? Angry? Anxious? Stuck? Obsessed about working out or not working out?
- What would you do if you didn’t get so many headaches or weren’t so achy or just plain worn out?
What would you do? I ask you?
Let’s do what I said I was going to do--Assess, Consider, Educate ACE (from day one)
Get “it” out there into the universe. Name it.
Call it out! Say it. If you can say it, you can commit to it.
What would you do? If you felt better. What would you do?
What are you missing?
Why? What is stopping you? What is in your way?
If you can say what is really stopping you (I mean be honest, really!) then the smart person that you are can solve it. Maybe not easily but you can do it.
What would have to change?
There is stuff you need to know. Maybe you need to know what others do.
Maybe you need to know where to get help?
What do you need?
I want you to feel okay about not doing everything perfect so let’s make some fun of me. Miss know-it-all health.
Assess—What am I missing?
If I wasn’t so driven I would read more books, spend more time joking around with my kids. I would drink coffee with friends that I don’t get to see. I’d look at the stars. I’d stare into the eyes of the one I love.
Shit, I’m missing a lot.
Consider—Why and what would I have to change?
I feel guilty when I’m not working, producing, creating. I think it comes from my dad both genetically & behaviorally. I love him but he is a go gett’er. So, I go gett’er too.
I don’t like to feel guilty so to change I’d have to decide that I’m worth the space I take up in the world just by being me.
Say it with me: I am worth the space just by being me!
That it’s okay if I lay around a little. It doesn’t make me a loser. Also, the world does not depend on me to be productive and I’m being arrogant to think I matter so much.
Okay so that kind of hurt.
Educate—What do I need?
This talk by Brene Brown on vulnerability. 10,900,000,000+ people watched it. It really helped me because (I think) when ever I feel insecure I work.
Crap, I must be insecure a lot.
I’m also reading:
The Gifts of Imperfection …. because I have imperfection down to a science.
I’m feeling better already?
What about you?